I once believed I was "bad." Growing up in a strict Agarwal family that adhered to traditional values like vegetarianism and abstinence from alcohol and smoking, I found myself rebelling against these principles during my college years. Back then, breaking family norms felt like a declaration of independence. Smoking, drinking, and indulging in behaviors frowned upon by my upbringing became my way of expressing freedom. Yet, deep down, I felt a nagging sense of guilt—a quiet whisper reminding me that this wasn't truly who I was.

Looking back, that guilt was a blessing in disguise. It became the catalyst for my transformation. It sparked within me a desire to balance my perceived "badness" with acts of goodness. Over time, I realized that even the qualities I associated with my rebellious phase were instrumental in shaping my growth. They taught me humility, curiosity, and the importance of learning from others.

Discovering Rajyoga Meditation

The real turning point came when I encountered the teachings of Rajyoga through the Brahma Kumaris. Their simplicity, joy, and unwavering kindness left a profound impression on me. I remember their words vividly: "You have the potential to become divine." At first, I dismissed it as overly idealistic. However, as I delved deeper into meditation and self-reflection, I began to believe in the possibility of change.

Rajyoga meditation helped me uncover the inherent goodness within. Within a week of starting the practice, I quit smoking, drinking, and other habits that had been holding me back. This shift wasn’t just about giving up vices—it was about rediscovering clarity and strength. The discipline and insight I gained through meditation gave me the courage to align my life with goodness and purpose.

Lessons from the U.S.: A Test of Character

When life led me to the United States, I faced a different set of challenges. The culture shock and the fear of losing the spiritual progress I had made were daunting. But I made a conscious decision: I would use my time there to contribute positively and not lose myself in external distractions.

I soon realized that giving wasn’t just about financial support—it was about sharing knowledge, skills, and positive energy. At my job as a civil engineer, I went beyond my designated responsibilities. I helped colleagues grow, supported my team in difficult situations, and worked with an attitude of service. These actions enriched my relationships and fueled my own personal and professional development.

The Power of Giving

One of the most profound lessons I’ve learned is the transformative power of giving. In a world that often encourages minimal effort for maximum gain, I chose to exceed expectations. This unconventional philosophy proved immensely rewarding.

For instance, I remember a colleague, Larry, who seemed disengaged and demotivated. I took it upon myself to mentor him, recognizing his strengths and helping him build confidence. Over time, he transformed into a highly capable professional. Witnessing his growth and hearing his gratitude reaffirmed my belief in the power of selfless giving.

Giving also nurtured my own growth. When we empower others, we unlock not just their potential but our own. The joy and satisfaction of seeing someone succeed, knowing you had a part to play in their journey, are unparalleled.

The Take away: From Flaws to Flourishing

Reflecting on my journey, I’ve come to understand that no matter how "bad" we think we are, we all have the potential to become better—perhaps even extraordinary. The key lies in acknowledging our flaws and using them as stepping stones for growth. Goodness isn’t about grand gestures; it’s about consistent acts of kindness, humility, and a willingness to learn and share.

Rajyoga meditation taught me that even the smallest steps toward self-improvement can lead to profound change. By aligning my actions with purpose and focusing on giving, I’ve experienced a transformation that has enriched my life in countless ways.

If there’s one message I’d like to leave you with, it’s this: no matter where you start, the journey toward goodness is always within reach. It’s not about perfection; it’s about progress. In embracing this journey, we discover not only our true selves but also the joy of making a positive difference in the lives of others.

   
By BK Ram Singhal   
Brahma Kumaris, New York, USA