By: Sister Chirya
Source: The Daily Guardian https://epaper.thedailyguardian.com/2026/05/22/e-paper-today-delhi-23-may-2026/
Dated: May 23th, 2026

Living in a close-knit world, it is important to make sure that we have good relationships. Sadly, relationships are no longer as deep and meaningful as they used to be. There are an increasing number of early divorces and sudden break-ups in friendships with loved ones. People are less content with each other, and anger, ego, jealousy, possessiveness and insecurity continue to invade relationships more than ever before.

Every person has their own mindset and perspectives, which may not always align with our own goals or life milestones. If you allow negative comments of others to control your thinking, it will weaken your confidence and self-belief. Negative thoughts and opinions of others become obstacles or distract you from your purpose. The most important causes of relationships collapsing are inner emptiness, low self-respect, lack of respect for others, and the inability to communicate with the other person. It is important to keep on your own pathway through life. Our life's purpose is ours alone, and the determination to achieve it must come from within us.

No one can make us feel hurt.  It is our own internal conversation about the behavior of others that determines how we feel.  Only we can heal ourselves by changing our own thoughts and attitudes.

It is good to connect to people with a lot of sweetness and humility, but also keep a distance from people in our mind. Attachment in relationships creates expectations and desires, leading to sorrow and emotions based on fear, worry, and stress. These negative vibrations will be felt by others and the goodness and strength of the relationship is weakened. Having expectations causes problems in all relationships. Expectations arise because the qualities of peace, love, joy, and respect are not present in sufficient depth within the self. Appreciation of another is vital, but becoming overly attached brings sorrow.

Give a few minutes of meditation every day to fill the self with peace, love, and joy through beautiful affirmations, and our relationships will become a reflection of these qualities. No longer needy, or searching for peace and love, we enter into relationships to share and enjoy. We then find we have spiritual love and good wishes for others. With no strings attached; our love is unconditional. The eternal goodness within and the relationship with a higher source, God, is all I depend on, because it is an eternal relationship that never gives sorrow, only peace, joy, and love of the most profound kind.

Chirya Risely is a Rajyoga meditation teacher based at the Brahma Kumaris Peace Village Retreat Center, USA.